Tuesday, 17 April 2012

N Is For Nearly There

...in all aspects of life.

The reason for our existence is as vast as the stars in the night sky, but you can't deny that the most quintessential aspect of our experience is to accomplish and enjoy. As a young guy, barely old enough to legally drink alcohol, achieving stability and peace of mind is key. This is usually defined by the two "Fs", finances and family, but can extend to any other parameter we view as worthy; some folks think being one with nature is achieving peace of mind, while others will contest that such a thing can only be found in God.

Sometimes I hate going to family picnics, barbecues and what not, because my aunts and uncles always ask me, "Have you found a nice girl to marry yet, Tyson?"

"No, aunty, I haven't.'

"A guy?"

0_0 "What?"

"Hey, you never know..."

The truth is: I'm not there yet. And you know what? That's fine, 'cause it might take a while. Who says I have to be married before I'm 25? Who says being a writer isn't a real job? Who says I have to be rich and live in a nice house and drive a Mercedes? Well, that will be nice but still...these feats don't define me as a person, and they sure as hell aren't unattainable because I failed to achieve them by a certain age.

I am happy at this point in my life right now. Do I wish I had more? Yes. But I'm taking my time and simply living in the moment. Whether we're Not there, Nearly there or There,  I think we all need to take it easy and just enjoy what we have accomplished so far.


Kyra Lennon said...

Excellent post, you are very wise! :D It's bad that people are asking you when you're going to get married already! That didn't start for me until I was 26, and three years later, it's starting to get very boring!

T.D. McFrost said...

My family think very highly of me so I understand why they want me to be settled. They also want me to buy a house for each and every one of them.

I don't think they'll let me weasel my way out of that one. --_--

Elise Fallson said...

Take. Your. Time.
Especially if your happy with your life right now. No need to rush things because "they" did.

Tracey Neithercott said...

You know, it's better than the alternative, I guess. My grandmother told my cousin "I've given up on you ever finding a husband." She's only 33. Haha! So, yeah, at least they still think you can get a girl. Or guy. But really smart post. That sort of stuff shouldn't define us.

Also, since you're going on a home-buying spree, I'll let you buy mine, too. Anything to help you feel like a more giving person, Tyson. ;)

T.D. McFrost said...

Elise: Thins are well. I'm loving the life of a bachelor.

Tracey: What is it with them and getting shacked up so young? Don't they know nowadays you actually need a plan (job, home) before you can get married and be happy? This isn't like the good ol' days where you can get married on a whim.

Plus, women are terribly independent so good lucky finding a young girl who'll marry you and settle down without attaining her dreams first.

Jay Noel said...

Healthy sentiments.

Why rush it? Too many people do and just end up unhappy.

T.D. McFrost said...


elizabeth seckman said...

Agree 100%. Forcing things never works. When it's right, you'll know it.

Medeia Sharif said...

Sometimes we focus too much on being goal-driven that we don't enjoy the process of getting there. I think we can work towards something, plus enjoy ourselves in the moment.

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